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Hair Appointment Day – It is Going to be a Good Day!

by  Daphne MacNeil

I have developed a tiny habit which tunes me into a positive energy frequency each and every day.  Every morning when my feet touch the floor and as I reach to open the blinds I say, “this is going to be a good day.”  When I do this it is as if every cell in my body aligns with a good feeling place.  This particular morning and every other morning that I had scheduled my hair appointment, I automatically know that it is in fact going to be a very good day!

A few years ago, upon accepting a new position, I no longer had  access to flexible work arrangements which once again impacted my ability to continue being a client of yet another hairstylist who I adored and respected personally and professionally. I had wonderful experiences with hairstylists throughout my adult life (Mary and Dorothy from the Hair Factory in St. John’s)  which meant my new hairstylist was going to have big shoes to fill.  So my search began.  I chatted with several close family members and friends in an effort to find someone who had the qualities I admired.

Carolyn Cobb of Personally Yours Hair Design (St. John’s) and I met through a mutual friend (one of Carolyn’s longstanding clients) who always had a classy hairdo!  There is no doubt how or why we made a solid connection. We both describe the other as being of like-mindedness.

Upon awakening this morning,  I quickly realized it is hair appointment day and my thoughts go something like this, “I get to spend  time with Carolyn today.  Yay!!”  I felt instantly energized.  It set the tone for my day.  What is interesting and fun is that Carolyn has shared with me that she feels the same way.  Carolyn has shared with me that on the days that she opens her appointment book and sees my name written on the page, she thinks, “Daphne is coming in today, this is going to be a good day!”  Isn’t this absolutely awesome? People bringing joy into one another’s lives by just showing up and being their true selves with no hidden agendas, no masks to hide behind and simply celebrating one another’s uniqueness.  What is there not to love about this?

Each one of us are a unique gift to this universe.  Our challenge is to see one another through the lens of unconditional love from a place of inner peace and joy; to create safe places for our lights to shine  brightly.  Yes, this has been a very good day!  I am truly grateful and thankful for the personal and professional relationship I have developed with Carolyn Cobb.  Carolyn possesses an inner and outer beauty; her unique light shines brightly.  She is a star!  If you ever get the chance to meet this marvellous lady, you will find that she is living her passion, she loves the work she is doing and the people whom she serves, because of this, she is living a life she loves.

P.S.  We give each other a Qigong (heart to heart) hug upon greeting one another and as we bid each other a farewell. I have been told by a Qigong Master that  8 hugs a day help us to balance our life energy. Give somebody you know a hug for health today.



Are You Superstitious?

Superstitions are part of the Newfoundland culture. The one person who I remember as being very superstitious was my darling grandmother, ‘Nan.’ We all dearly loved this woman, she had the capacity to make each and everyone of her grandchildren feel very special.

When Nan would come to town (City of St. John’s) for her visits, the big outings for her involved: shopping downtown (Water Street) St. John’s; in the Avalon Mall; the K-Marts, Zellers, Pipers or Bi-ways and any other shopping outlet that existed between point A and point B. So needless to say, when we travelled around the city shopping with Nan or on occasions when she came to visit us in our homes, there would be numerous opportunities when Nan would feel the need to protect us from taking unwarranted risks as she would remind us:

  • Don’t walk under that ladder; you know it’s bad luck to walk under ladders
  • Don’t open that umbrella indoors, you will attract bad luck if you open that umbrella in here
  • We must remember which door we came in because that is the one we will be leaving through. It did not matter that the word ‘entrance’ was posted on that particular door.
  • You will want to be nice to the crows, if not, they will remember and will bring you bad luck. Crows are very smart animals you know.
  • Black cats crossing your path brings bad luck.
  • Be careful with your mirror, you know if you break it you will have 7 years of bad luck.
  • Best not to plan any trips on Friday the 13th because you don’t want to attract bad luck.
  • Strangers are coming…you forgot to put the top on your teapot.
  • Don’t worry about rain on your wedding day; while some folks say it is bad luck your grandfather and I were married in the middle of a winter’s storm and we have had a good marriage (she shared this one with me as torrential rains were falling on my wedding day)
  • Hang a set of rosary beads on the clothesline if you are looking for good weather
  • You don’t want to be playing cards or doing laundry on the lord’s day (Sundays)
  • Red sky in the morning sailors take warning, red sky at night sailors delight. Given my grandfather was a fisherman, this is one we heard regularly.
  • A horse shoe will bring you good luck as do four leaf clovers. You would often find horseshoes hung on people’s properties such as their fences or doors.
  • Don’t cross your fork over your knife or else there may be a fight

I claim to not be superstitions as I chose not to want to deal with the associated fears and my perceived limitations and restrictions. I did however develop a healthy respect and admiration for:

  • the crow upon learning how intelligent these creatures truly are
  • Ashes, our neighbours black cat as she deals with the little unwanted critters that exist in our neighbourhood as in many others around these parts
  • Pop’s innate abilities to  read and to rely upon nature’s signs as he and Nan planned their day’s activities whether they involved fishing on the open ocean in small fishing boats, tending to their vegetable garden, taking care of their animals, delivering mail with a team of dogs and a sleigh or by boat or working with the horse and sleigh, drying salt fish on fish flakes, cutting wood or carrying water from the well.

Talk about hard working people!

I felt like sharing some fond memories of times spent with dear grandparents who always had their loved ones’ best interests at heart. For my extended family, December month is a month that is filled with celebrations of births, anniversaries of weddings as well as deaths.

P. S.  Why not share the superstitions that exist in your culture? Please share them in the Reply/Comments space below…

What Makes You Happy?

I had made a connection with Leslie Bridger in recent months by attending such events as Momondays – St. John’s (hosted by Barry Lewis Greene and Joel Sweeney) and events organized by “I Am Genie” (hosted by Joshua Dawson and Ingrid Thornhill).  I am so grateful for having made a connection with a growing community of like-minded people who live in and around the greater St. John’s area.

It was at last month’s Momondays event (held at Yuk Yuk’s – Uptown in St. John’s, Newfoundland) when Leslie asked me,  “So what makes you happy Daphne?” To which I quickly responded “It is the little things that make me happy. ‘Being’ here (meaning at MoMondays) makes me happy.”  I like being surrounded by like-minded people who raise one another up as they share stories about who they are, their life’s journey, lessons learned and how they have grown to create better lives for themselves, their families and/or the communities they serve.

Like many others,  I use to think the next big job, a new home, a fancier car would bring me happiness but these days it is all about the little things.  I have come to learn that at some point in time we awaken to the fact that we have all been conditioned (some refer to it as being brainwashed) to believe that we need to acquire many things in order to feel a sense of accomplishment in our lives.  Like a child on Christmas Day, our intrigue in the next new thing creates a level of excitement for a short while; yet these feelings often quickly subside the moment we see the next new thing our friends, colleagues or neighbours have acquired.

I have learned that happiness does not come from the next big purchase or from someone else or something outside of me. Happiness is an inside out job; it is up to me to make decisions and take actions that make me happy. It is up to me to observe my thoughts and reflect upon my behavior to determine whether I am going to serve up greater light or darkness in our universe.

Yes, happiness is all about experiencing the little things that show up in this very moment and being present to receive them. For me, it  can be as simple as taking a mindful walk in nature with my dog, watching as one single bright yellow leaf falls from a tree and gently floats to the ground, listening as birds sing their unique songs, watching as a cat hides in the woods preparing to attack my little dog, Misty; listening to the sound of the river flowing alongside the path I am walking on.  During these mindful walks I am often inspired to write a blog or a poem or to create a meal for my family and friends. This is happiness and peace on earth for me.

I am very blessed to live in a peaceful province (Newfoundland and Labrador) and for aligning myself with a marvellous community of like-minded, mindful and peaceful people.

What makes you happy?

Thank you Leslie, for being the inspiration for today’s blog post.

The Wizard of Awe – Leslie Bridger